I suspect few people in the United States with any kind of
connection to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints have not been
exposed to the recent controversy surrounding two members of the Church being
summoned to disciplinary councils for apostasy.
It seems that everyone has an opinion on the issue. An awful lot has been said on the subject
from a variety of sources. Comments have
been emotionally charged; judgments from all along the spectrum of opinion and
orthodoxy fly around social media and the comment boards of news articles like
missiles in a war. The dynamics of this
fiasco were on my mind as I went to church last week.
Last Sunday was Father’s Day. Our littlest one was sick, so it was just my
oldest and I in Sacrament meeting. The
primary kids excitedly rushed to the stand when it came time for them to sing for
the congregation – well, maybe not the older ones. My precocious but shy 4-year-old stood in the
front row next to her little 4-year-old friends. She leaned against the short front wall of
the dais, nervous but beaming. The kids
began to sing and I caught her look to me several times out of the corner of
her eye as her subtly dimpled grin stole across her innocent face. The words and melody were familiar, but somehow
felt new:
Our
Father has a family. It’s Me!
It’s
you, all others too: we are His children.
He
sent each one of us to earth, through birth,
To
live and learn here in our families.
God
gave us families
To
help us become what he wants us to be –
This
is how He shares His love,
For
the family is of God.
Perhaps the sense of newness came from the feeling of love
and joy that rested upon me in that moment like warm sunshine on a cold
morning. The warmth lingered as the kids
continued through all of the verses of the song and a tear or two escaped my
eyes. I love that stirring of the soul. It is an experience more felt than thought,
yet there is illumination and wonder impressed on both the heart and mind. I felt such gratitude for the miracle of my own
little family (and I promise it is not hyperbole to call it a miracle). I also felt gratitude for the church family
that surrounded me in those pews. I felt
gratitude for God’s perfect love, and I sensed that others felt it too.
Such moments of communion are precious, even if not frequent.
It’s one of the reasons I love to attend
church – the tender yet unpredictable moments of communion with fellow
believers and with my Heavenly Father.
I was especially appreciative of the experience because it
came in the midst of my concern and sadness about the current tensions in the
Church. It was a reminder of my love for
my faith and my church family. And, what
would a family be without some drama, anyway? J
I really believe and embrace the idea
expressed in the primary song that it is in the dynamics of interpersonal
relationships, especially family and close community, that God most effectively
“helps us become what He wants us to be”. So, that’s what I’ve been thinking about over
the past week: As one who wants and
tries to be a disciple of Jesus, how does God want me to respond to this
situation in my own heart and life? I
suspect the answer to such a question will be different for everyone, but I
would like to share some of the insights I have had.
I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have an opinion about
Brother Dehlin and Sister Kelly. It
would be a real stretch to say that I haven’t wanted to make a few posts and
comments expressing thoughts about their methods and their conclusions. I would also be dishonest if I said I haven’t
experienced emotional reactions or judgments about them and their works, which
is testament to my own pride. However,
they are also my brother and sister in Christ, for whom I am called to show genuine
compassion. I’m certainly not in the
wagon of folks who appear almost jubilant at the prospect of
excommunication. I don’t know if these
two individuals should be disciplined because I don’t know them and I don’t
know their hearts; that matter is between them, the Lord, and their local
priesthood leaders. I would not want to
be walking in the shoes of their stake presidents and bishops right now, that’s
for sure. What I do know is that whether
or not they are deserving of excommunication, their souls are still of great
worth in the sight of God. These
circumstances do not call for celebration or gloating by any members of the
church, but then neither do they call for self-inflicted socio-religious martyrdom
by these two activists. Of course, we
each must make choices (judgments) about ideas we embrace and affiliations we
make, but we would do well to remember that final judgments are left to God.
With all of that said, I’ve come to this conclusion: Outside of my capacity to pray for all of
those involved I have zero control over Brother Dehlin and Sister Kelly, and I
have no influence over the leaders who will be participating in these
decisions. Online and print arguments
about whether or not they should be disciplined or whether their activities are
appropriate will likely change very few opinions. There is some constructive dialogue
happening, but the great majority of what is being said is serving no purpose
outside of inflaming tensions. Which
brings me to the question raised above.
How does God want me to view these circumstances? What can I learn from them in my pathway of
discipleship? What does He want me to do
and to be?
Recently I read the Book of Helaman in the Book of
Mormon. When I was contemplating the
current controversy in the Church I recalled circumstances described in the third
and fourth chapters of the Book of Helaman that bear striking resemblance to
those occurring right now before our very eyes.
In the broader societal context the people were setting aside the
commandments of God. The civil laws that
had been set up by King Mosiah had begun to be corrupted and altered as well
(Hel 3:22-23; 4:21-22). Despite this
there was general peace throughout the land except for the presence of some
secret combinations by Gadianton robbers.
I’ll let the reader draw the parallels to today. In the midst of these conditions, though, the
church experienced a period of “exceedingly great prosperity”. Tens of thousands of people joined the church
and the blessings poured out upon the people of God were so great that even the
leaders of the church were “astonished beyond measure”. It was a time of great joy (Hel. 3:24-26,
31-32). Does that sound a lot like what
the latter-day Church has experienced in the past couple of decades, and
especially in the past few years with the so-called “Mormon moment”?
Unfortunately, it didn’t last for the folks in the Book of
Mormon. Pride began to enter into the
hearts of the “people who professed to belong to the church of God” (Hel
3:32). Members of the church began to persecute
and afflict other members of the church!
Their material wealth and prosperity compounded their pride, which
continued to grow (Hel 3:33-34, 36).
Before long there were “many dissensions” and contention within the church (Hel. 4:1). The situation deteriorated to the point that
the people of God lost the capacity to have the Spirit dwell with them. Because they thought they were so great and
strong, they were left to their own
strength, they were not protected and preserved by God, and the church began to
dwindle (Hel. 4:11-13, 23-26).
Mormon, the narrator of the Book of Mormon, describes the
reason for their struggles thusly:
And it
was because of the pride of their hearts, because of their exceeding riches,
yea, it was because of their oppression to the poor, withholding their food
from the hungry, withholding their clothing from the naked, and smiting their
humble brethren upon the cheek, making a mock of that which was sacred, denying
the spirit of prophecy and of revelation, murdering, plundering, lying,
stealing, committing adultery, rising up in great contentions, and deserting
away into the land of Nephi, among the Lamanites… (Hel 4:12).
If that is not a warning to us who profess to belong to the
church of God, I don’t know what is. To
me the parallels are remarkable. Let me
be clear lest anyone interpret my thoughts here as pointing a finger at
particular persons or groups: to do so would be prideful – the very thing this
story is warning about. So again, this
message from the Book of Mormon is an invitation for ALL of us to reflect on
the state of our own mind, heart, and behavior.
As President Ezra Taft Benson taught, “Pride is the universal sin” and
“the great stumbling block of Zion.” In
a General Conference address, President Uchtdorf said the following about
pride:
Pride is sinful…because it breeds hatred or hostility and places
us in opposition to God and our fellowmen. At its core, pride is a sin of
comparison, for though it usually begins with “Look how wonderful I am and what
great things I have done,” it always seems to end with “Therefore, I am better
than you.”…
Pride is the great sin of self-elevation. It is for so many a
personal Rameumptom, a holy stand that justifies envy, greed, and vanity. In a sense, pride is the original sin,
for before the foundations of this earth, pride felled Lucifer, a son of the
morning “who was in authority in the presence of God.” If pride can corrupt one as capable
and promising as this, should we not examine our own souls as well?...
This sin has many faces. It leads some to revel in their own
perceived self-worth, accomplishments, talents, wealth, or position. They count
these blessings as evidence of being “chosen,” “superior,” or “more righteous”
than others. This is the sin of “Thank God I am more special than you.” At its
core is the desire to be admired or envied. It is the sin of
self-glorification.
For others, pride turns to envy: they look bitterly at those who
have better positions, more talents, or greater possessions than they do. They
seek to hurt, diminish, and tear down others in a misguided and unworthy
attempt at self-elevation. When those they envy stumble or suffer, they
secretly cheer. (Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Pride and the Priesthood, Ensign, Oct. 2010).
Fortunately, the story of dissension and contention in the
church of Book of Mormon times is not left without direction for the readers of
the book today. In fact, several
beautiful truths are presented to help us avoid the eventual state that came
about in the ancient church in the Americas.
First, consider with me the mindset of many of the people
who had hardened their hearts against that which was good. It seems that they came to rely on reason alone to draw their conclusions, and
were preoccupied with a fear of being stifled, oppressed, and “kept in
ignorance” (Hel 16:15-23). They seem to
have assigned questionable and selfish motives to leaders of the church. Their perspective is summed up in the
statement, “thus they will keep us in ignorance if we will yield ourselves
unto them, all the days of our lives.” (Hel 16:21 emphasis added).
Contrast that unwillingness to yield with the more humble
part of the people, keeping in mind that humility is the antidote to pride.
Nevertheless
they did fast and pray oft, and did wax stronger and stronger in their
humility, and firmer and firmer in the faith of Christ, unto the filling their
souls with joy and consolation, yea, even to the purifying and the
sanctification of their hearts, which sanctification cometh because of their yielding their hearts unto God. (Hel
3:35).
To yield is to give or to render, it should not be confused
here with merely letting something happen or stopping for someone else to
pursue their path, as at a traffic intersection. No, yielding our hearts to God is to center
our hope in Him, to believe in Him, and to act according to His counsel. Such yielding moves us to prayer and fasting,
to practicing humility, and to cultivating faith. Is not faith a state of extraordinary
surrender? The promise is clear that
this surrender of our hearts to God opens them up to joy, consolation, and
sanctification – or the process of becoming saintly. We are each invited to be saints, which means
so much more than having a name on the records of the Church or participating
in a cultural identity. The yielding of our hearts to God the Father that leads to joy and sanctification is active,
intense, and prolonged. It is the doing and
the being of discipleship. Will
contention exist in the church if we are each yielding our hearts to God?
Second, repentance
emerges as a clear theme in the text that discusses the contentious
circumstances in Helaman. In the 16
chapters of the Book of Helaman, some form of the word repentance is used at
least 57 times. Some have a negative,
even cynical, view of the concept of repentance (which just might stem from
pride). I know sometimes I do. But in reality, repentance is a merciful,
hopeful doctrine.
…For
this cause, that men might be saved, hath repentance been declared. Therefore, blessed are they who will repent
and hearken unto the voice of the Lord their God; for these are they that shall
be saved. And may God grant, in his
great fullness, that men might be brought unto repentance and good works, that
they might be restored unto grace for grace, according to their works. And I would that all men might be saved. (Hel
12:22-25).
The word repentance evidently comes from a Greek word that
denotes “a change of mind, a fresh view about God, about oneself, and about the
world” (LDS Bible Dictionary). We are
commanded to constantly repent in our daily walk along the pathway of
discipleship not because God is some kind of sadistic disciplinarian, but
because He is a patient Father. He calls
us to examine ourselves – our views and our ways – and to climb ever higher toward Him (Isaiah 55:9). Repentance attunes us to
God’s grace, which is His help and strength to meet life’s challenges. Will contention exist in the Church if we
each possess a penitent heart, especially in our recognition of the pull toward
pride?
Finally, take a look at a description of many of those who
professed to be saints at this time:
Behold,
they do not desire that the Lord their God, who hath created them, should rule
and reign over them; notwithstanding his great goodness and his mercy towards
them, they do set at naught his counsels, and they will not that he should be
their guide. (Hel 12:6).
Contrast that sentiment with the feeling of others at the
time who recognized that “except they should cleave unto the Lord their God they must unavoidably perish.” (Hel
4:25). To cleave in this context means
to adhere or attach to strongly. The
connotation is a deep spiritual and emotional connection – the ideal two-way
parent-to-child relationship. Such
relationships are forged only through intimate interaction and communion. To cleave is to trust with all of the vulnerability
that trust requires, a risky but freeing experience indeed. It is perhaps the hardest doctrine in
Christianity, and certainly paradoxical to the culture of independence and
defiance in which we are socialized. For
we are called not just to passively follow, but to willingly submit ourselves
to Jesus Christ, even as a child submits himself to his father (Mosiah 3:19). We allow God to be our guide. In the pattern of the Savior, we voluntarily
sacrifice our own will – whatever that will may be – in the interest of the
will of the Father. We do not rupture
the attachment or abandon the relationship when things get tough. We hold fast forever. Will there be contention in the church if we
each try to truly cleave unto the Lord our God?
Perhaps for those of us not involved in these disciplinary
actions the question of whether or not someone should be excommunicated is a
misguided question to be debating. The
more relevant questions in the midst of this contention, at least for me, are
self-reflective: Am I yielding my heart
to God? Am I striving to refine my understanding
and behavior through repentance, especially when it comes to the sin of pride? Am I
cleaving to my Father in Heaven? I know
I have a long way to go, though I am committed to press forward on this thorny
but incredible journey with my fellow striving
saints and with the grace of God. After all, we are all in this together and it's the only way that we can "become what He wants us to be". I hope that we can avoid the
tragedy and the suffering experienced by the people of the Book of Mormon. I sincerely pray for the best possible
outcome for each of us, for my brothers and sisters involved in these controversies, and for the
church that I love.